• “This is me riding my bike with my dog along the Chicago lakefront.”

    What It’s Like Being 80

    At 21, Tony wanted to become a writer. He ended up being one, and a journalism lecturer, and a bond investment manager, on top of marrying twice and having 2 children, while also experiencing the shock and joys of being fired. (“I was let go by a publisher in a small company. He was interested in one of the women editors there and because I was friends with her, he fired me. Ironically, it was one of the most positive things that ever happened to me. He gave me 2 weeks severance pay. My wife had just given birth to our son the day before. I went to the hospital and told her what happened. That weekend I found an ad in the Chicago Tribune looking for a writer. It was Reuters. They hired me.”). We asked him what it is like being 80. 

    “One of the traps in retirement is to think ‘I don’t have to work any more.’ Wrong you still need to work to keep you body healthy.”

    Q: Hi Tony, thank you so much for being here with us. Could you tell us a little bit about yourself and how old you are now?

    A: I am 80 years young. Turned 80 on Jan 26. I retired from a major philanthropy in 2000 where I managed $900 million in bond investments for the prior 5 years. Before that, I wrote a newsletter for the Investment Department. Worked there 10 years total. Before that I was a journalist for Reuters News Service. Enjoyed a one year posting to London in 1977. Worked there 20 years. Previously I had edited men’s magazines for some years after graduating college with a degree in finance. I know that is a strange career track. 

    Currently I write my blog Diet, Exercise and Living Past 100 (guysandgoodhealth.com) which I began 9 years ago. I ride my bike around 100 miles a week year ’round here in Chicago. I eat healthy and get a full night’s sleep. Go to Las Vegas 4 times a year with my girlfriend and play video poker.

    “This is me in my 20's flying a kite.”
    “This is me in my 20’s flying a kite.”

    What are your current daily and weekly routines like?

    I try to get a good night’s sleep because that is a great reboot for the brain and body. Have written a number of posts on the value of a good night’s sleep. Ride my bike daily. Play video poker at the casino twice a week. It is a fun game that allows the player to choose the best cards to hold to make the strongest hand. I eat intelligently. My weight has been in the 155-160 lb range for 10 years. I walk a couple of miles a day, some with my pooch and otherwise every chance I get. Walking is a great weight-bearing exercise. 

    How is your body different from what it was like at age 70?

    I think it is healthier now than when I was working because I pay attention to healthy practices like sleeping well, eating intelligently and exercising regularly. When I was working I weighed in the 180’s and after I retired I got more careless about my weight and ballooned up to 225. I felt terrible and looked terrible with a big pot belly. I decided to straighten myself out.

    Tony when younger.
    Tony when younger.

    What brings you joy these days?  

    I enjoy writing my blog and I am active on social media. Big Wonder Woman fan. She was created in 1940, so I have been a fan since reading her comics in the ’40s as a kid. Belong to several Wonder Woman groups on Facebook. Have my own group on the Mewe social network. I like Pinterest. I have boards on video poker, Wonder Woman, puns, Alice in Wonderland, geometric pics and animal memes. My girlfriend and I go to the theatre and concerts as well as Las Vegas and the local riverboat. Lastly, I have a 25-year-old daughter who teaches kindergarten in Indianapolis. I also play backgammon on the web.

    Which item, bought or received in the past year, has been most useful to you?

    LOL My car. I drive a white Mini Cooper with black racing stripes on it. Hadn’t owned a car for 25 years, then saw The Italian Job movie and got a car crush on the MINI. Bought one in 2004 and now am driving my fifth one. It is a three-cylinder car with a manual transmission. I am one of the dinosaurs that still shifts gears with a clutch. Great fun car to drive.


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    What were you like as a middle-aged adult and how have you changed since?

    In middle age, I was still working. I was married to a much younger woman so I became a father at 55. Great experience raising a child at the age. Someone called it having your own grandchildren. I was managing money and involved in the market on a daily basis. I use the same money management principles in the casino today that I did when I managed money professionally. Limit your losses; let your profits run. The biggest thing, then, and now, is discipline.

    Can you list 3 things you realised or learned only after age 80 that you didn’t know before? 

    Well, technically, I can’t. I have only been 80 for a couple of weeks. I can tell you what I have learned since retiring at 60. I don’t rush so I live with minimal stress. I know how important it is to exercise daily. One of the traps in retirement is to think “I don’t have to work any more.” Wrong you still need to work to keep you body healthy. That is a full time 7 day a week commitment. I have learned the danger of a sedentary lifestyle. I have written in the blog that a sedentary lifestyle is more dangerous than smoking. Because you don’t realise how you are damaging your body. 

    Which 3 people or things in your life are most important to you right now? 

    My girlfriend, my daughter and my dog.

    “My girlfriend shot this of me in the Las Vegas airport.”
    “My girlfriend shot this of me in the Las Vegas airport.”

    Is status important beyond age 80? What about wealth, knowledge acquisition, romance, birthdays and friendships? 

    Status is not at all important now. But, when I was just beginning in my first marriage and early career, that kind of stuff meant something. Wealth is a relative term. I retired 20 years ago, but I live a simple life, bike riding, web surfing, walking my dog. I also gamble regularly, but I have strict l limits on how much I risk, so that is not an expensive pastime. I think wealth is relative, though, mostly anyone with more money than you is ‘wealthy.’ You need to define it specifically for an accurate answer. Knowledge acquisition is very important. I still take courses from The Great Courses. I started when I retired. Just bought 2 this month. Romance will always be important. Birthdays are a joke, of course, now they just tell me how much closer to being dead I am. The number 80 sounds like hell. But, thankfully, I don’t feel 80. Friendships count for a lot. I also have a lot of acquaintances from walking my dog.

    What regrets do you have?

    I can’t think of any regrets. 

    What do you think those not yet 80 should be doing while they still can?

    Regarding folks under 80, I write my blog for them. No matter what your age you should be taking care of your body and eating intelligently. I feel strongly about that, because for many years, I didn’t and it was a foolish mistake. Exercise is particularly important because it keeps our bodies (which are organic machines) in tip top shape. But also, it helps the brain in lots of ways. I took care of an aunt who was dying of Alzheimer’s and watched her decline. It scared the life out of me. That’s why I care so much about keeping the body active.

    “This is me riding my bike with my dog along the Chicago lakefront.”
    “This is me riding my bike with my dog along the Chicago lakefront.”

    Is there anybody you presently look up to, who you would like to learn from?

    As a football fan, I look up to Tom Brady for his all around excellence and the way he keeps his body together. Likewise, Bill Bellichick for his superb coaching ability. I think I face life the way they do. 

    Lastly, do you think about death? And if so, what do you think of it? 

    I don’t think about death. There doesn’t seem to be anything in that. I have a will and a planned estate, but other than that, I am enjoying my being here now. 

    Tony presently rides his bike every day and produces for his blog, guysandgoodhealth.com. “I put out jokes every Friday—weekend funnies.” You can follow him on his adventures there or ask him to impart wisdom to you using the comment box below. He also runs a Wonder Woman fan group on MeWe here.

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  • “Charlie and Emily are not related to me, but are my grandbabies anyway.”

    What It’s Like Being Older Than 70

    Dr Bob Rich was born in Hungary then shoved past the ‘Iron Curtain’ as a child in the 1950s and ended up living in Australia. He’s since tried to be an Olympic distance runner, become a nurse, gotten a PHD in Psychology and is presently an author. We asked him for his thoughts on being older than 70. 

    “We are here as students: caterpillars munching on the green leaves of experience, until we graduate as butterflies.”

    Q: Hi Bob, thank you so much for being here with us. Could you tell us a little bit about yourself and how old you are now?

    A: You can be entertained, informed, inspired and probably outraged while finding out about me at my blog, Bobbing Around.

    As I say there, I have retired from 5 different occupations so far. Still going strong as a writer with 18 books published, an editor, and most important as a Professional Grandfather. This means two kinds of activities:
    1. Striving for a survivable future and one worth surviving in for all my grandchildren (any person born after 1993 qualifies as my grandchild, anywhere on the planet).
    2. Healing with words. Hundreds of people, mostly young, now live better lives because of our email exchanges. This is the gift that makes me resist wanting to jump off the planet when I look around at the criminal idiocy that’s been destroying everything.

    Oh, I have just attained the age of the magical number 77.

    “The ugly little kid no one could love, right?”
    “The ugly little kid no one could love, right?”

    How is your body different from what it was like at age 60?

    10 years younger.

    At that time, I was in unremitting 7 to 8 /10 pain that had gone on for some years. Then, (duh!) I had an X-ray done, and there was a stalactite growing in my right hip joint. Everything improved when I got a new hip installed.

    Mind you, that pain was useful, because it got me to deepen my meditation practice. If any of you readers experience chronic pain, let me tell you, the mindfulness approach works. I describe it in detail in my book on cancer, or look up “Jon Kabatt-Zinn” who is one of my heroes.

    “Part of a protest against Australia’s inhumane treatment of refugees.”
    “Part of a protest against Australia’s inhumane treatment of refugees.”

    What brings you joy these days?  

    A week ago, a young woman sent me a desperate email. Guilt and shame had torn her apart. Now she is working her way through my book on depression and has a positive view of herself and her world.

    And yesterday, when I was doing my exercises, I improved from 62 to 65 pushups.

    Which item, bought or received in the past year, has been most useful to you?

    I don’t go for stuff. I could live in a cave in the desert (as long as it had internet connection and room service).

    If I need something new, I’ll see if I can redefine the need into a want I can satisfy some other way. My wife and I have deliberately lived below the Australian poverty level since 1978. If you think that idiotic, please read my essay, “How to change the world”. Well, read it anyway.


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    What were you like as a young man? How have you changed since?

    I didn’t know it, but I was terribly depressed: just knew that I was ugly, and stupid, and no one could love me, and “if there is a wrong way of doing something, or even if there isn’t, I’ll do it that way first.” I also unknowingly suffered from post-traumatic stress disorder.

    I started doing therapy on myself at 21 years of age, though I didn’t realise I was doing that. Then for 20 years, I had depression under control. And at 43, I completely defeated it. Please read “The onion and the pearl”, a recent blog post that explains this.

    Which 3 people or things in your life are most important to you right now? 

    Only 3? There is my family, starting with wife, kids, grandkids, great-grandkids.

    Second are the children of my imagination: people who move into my computer, then come alive and dictate to me as I write fiction. One of them is the hero of a series, “The Doom Healer”. I’m working on the 5th volume when the world outside my computer allows me, while seeking a publisher wise enough to realise my young man will match Harry Potter.

    Third is my environmental and humanitarian campaigning.

    Is status important beyond age 70? What about wealth, knowledge acquisition, romance, birthdays and friendships? 

    I’ve never worried about status. As a young man, I realised that wealth can cost more than it’s worth. This is one of the things I’ve described in my novel, “Ascending Spiral”. It’s a good day when I learn something new: I am a learning addict. Romance? My wife would be VERY upset with me. Every day is a birthday. There is only NOW. The past is history, the future is a mystery. I give you a PRESENT.

    What regrets do you have?

    Being a human, on planet Earth. I explain this here.

    “Charlie and Emily are not related to me, but are my grandbabies anyway.”
    “Charlie and Emily are not related to me, but are my grandbabies anyway.”

    What do you think those not yet 70 should be doing while they still can?

    Before or after 70, realise that life has meaning. We are here as students: caterpillars munching on the green leaves of experience, until we graduate as butterflies. That’s when we learn the ultimate Lesson, which has been revealed by Confucius, the Buddha, Jesus, Gandhi, Martin Luther King, and lots of others. Read Corinthians 13. Whether we realise it or not, all of us are apprentice Buddhas.


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    Is there anybody you presently look up to, who you would like to learn from?

    The Dalai Lama, Pope Francis, Malala, Greta Thunberg, Leonardo di Caprio, the cat who owns my household, and every lovely baby I encounter.

    Lastly, do you think about death? And if so, what do you think of it? 

    Death doesn’t bother me. I often part with people by saying, “Have a good life!” If they return the wish, I explain that I already have, thank you.

    If I die today, fine. I have firm theories (based on what evidence is available) about what happens after death, and there is only one way of finding out if they are correct, right? And if I live another 20 years, fine.

    Death is not the end of a book, but the end of a chapter. Here is a little poem I wrote about it to console a grieving husband:

    She will return.
    Having lived the joys and agonies,
    ecstasies and sorrows of this life—
    to do better the next time around.
    Will her passing make you a better person,
    as her presence did, by your side?
    Her school is in recess for now,
    for she has passed, though our examination is still to come.
    She will return.

    Bob believes the planet is in its 6th major extinction event and is presently working to reduce and delay disaster while simultaneously promoting compassion, decency and cooperation through fiction. You can read more about him at his blog, bobrich18.wordpress.com, or chat with him using the comment box below (“I’ll be delighted to have a conversation with anyone who leaves a comment. After all, why should they take it with them?”). 

    If you would like to share your thoughts on being the age you are, do let us know here. Or read what it’s like to be a different age here

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  • “Me taken in July 2018.”

    What It’s Like Being Older Than 60

    At age 21, Simon Templar from the US set out to make enough money to retire before his 60th birthday. 4 decades later, he’s done that and now lives in Chiang Rai, Thailand. We asked him what’s next. 

    “I don’t fight as easily or as often as I used to.”

    Q: Hi Simon, thank you so much for being here with us. Could you tell us a little bit about yourself and how old you are now?

    A: I am a retired US Marine. I was an infantry officer and served from 1985-2010.

    “Pic of me and bro's when little.”
    “Pic of me and bro’s when little.”

    What are your current daily and weekly routines like?

    I work in the mornings and play golf or something in the afternoons.  Wednesday nights I go see a movie because I am “Cheap Charlie” and the ticket is only 100 baht.

    How is your body different from what it was like at age 50?

    12 years older. I broke my leg at the ankle and had to learn how to walk again after it finally healed.

    “Me with 70's porn star moustache.”
    “Me with 70’s porn star moustache.”

    What brings you joy these days?  

    Helping good people and making the occasional birdie. Pars are nice too.

    Which item, bought or received in the past year, has been most useful to you?

    My first set of fitted golf clubs.


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    What were you like as a young adult and how have you changed since?

    I was very intense. I don’t fight as easily or as often as I used to.

    Can you list 3 things you realised or learned only after age 60 that you didn’t know before? 

    A girl does not have to be a supermodel to be a super girlfriend. The best way to save money is to not waste it. Love is what ties it all together and makes the world go round.

    Which 3 people or things in your life are most important to you right now? 

    The pursuit of the truth. Lending a helping hand to people who have had a lot of bad luck through no fault of their own. Making more money so I can give more of it away.

    “Me after Infantry Officers Course in the field training my rifle platoon. Actually I was relaxing in this moment.”
    “Me after Infantry Officers Course in the field training my rifle platoon. Actually I was relaxing in this moment.”

    Is status important beyond age 60? What about wealth, knowledge acquisition, romance, birthdays and friendships? 

    Social status is always important but it is earned not purchased. Wealth is dandy because it gives one options/choices. Knowledge is not the only thing in life. It is the only thing. Romance never gets old or dull. Birthdays are no longer wonderful at some point in everyone’s life. Friendships should be maintained. Thanks to the connectivity provided by the internet, friends for life is more possible than before.  

    What regrets do you have?

    I drank too much and that eventually scared off some super women that wanted to be with me.

    “Me taken in July 2018.”
    “Me taken in July 2018.”

    What do you think those not yet 60 should be doing while they still can?

    Making hay while the sun shines.


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    Is there anybody you presently look up to, who you would like to learn from?

    I like President Trump. I would like to sit at and learn from Jesus Christ, but that would require either time travel or some other type of miracle.

    Lastly, do you think about death? And if so, what do you think of it? 

    I hope it comes upon me quickly but not while I am in good health, mentally and physically. I never worried much about death and try not to think about it too much other than doing common sense things such as estate planning and having a final will and testament.

    Simon is presently looking to fall in love and going on as many dates as possible in order to achieve that. You can find him out and about Chiang Rai, at his blog, inuinoueritashome.wordpress.com, or ask him where he’s at using the comment box below. You can also check out the Northern Thailand Christian Orphanage he supports here

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  • What It’s Like Being Older Than 40

    Leanne is a popular beauty Instagrammer in her 40s and a mum of 2 teen boys. We asked her what it’s like being older than 40 and learned about the importance of self-care and self-love. 

    “At age 45 or so, weight control became challenging.”

    Q: Hi Leanne, thank you so much for being here with us. Could you tell us a little bit about yourself and how old you are now?

    A: Thanks for having me. I am a mom of 2 boys (19 & 15) and I will be turning 48 this July.

    Leanne in her 20s.
    Leanne in her 20s.

    What are your current daily and weekly routines like?

    My day revolves around my family, friends and work. As the boys grow older, I’m beginning to have more time for myself. I indulge a little bit more on my hobby in photo-taking, spending longer time for skincare and taking more coffee breaks during work. I start my day at about 5am to prepare my son for school and a round of skincare (daily masking) before the morning nap at 7-9. Thereafter, work starts and there will be breaks (IG, tea time, meet-ups) in between. I’ll hit the gym or do brisk walking in the park at 5pm. Followed by dinner before 8pm and a bedtime massage for my son (for his tired legs instead of story time). I have a weekly date night with hubby and look forward to my elder son returning home from the army every weekend. Lots of cooking and baking at home but on Sundays, a visit to our favourite Italian restaurant after church is a must.

    How is your body different from what it was like at age 30?

    In my case, more obvious changes are on the face at age 30. In my mid-30s, the eyelids began to feel heavier and maintaining the V-shape face and skin-firming became harder. Physical changes got more apparent as I entered my 40s. And at age 45 or so, weight control became challenging with the need for stricter diets and exercise.

    Leanne in her late 20s.
    Leanne in her late 20s.

    What brings you joy these days?  

    Many things. Calming scents & kind gestures, a good conversation, a hello from an old friend or a poem that speaks to me. Family gatherings or meet-ups with friends. Coffee and tea, sunrise and sunsets. And weight loss, haha! It always makes me smile. 

    Which item, bought or received in the past year, has been most useful to you?

    Contour stick—it becomes your best friend as you age, one that helps you slim down instantly and define your face shape better despite the “less firm” skin. 


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    Can you list 3 things you realised or learned only after age 40 that you didn’t know before?

    That beauty transcends time and age. It doesn’t stop at “youth”. It is not that scary after all. Know that there’s so much in us, so much we can give at every stage of our lives. And that, makes us beautiful. 

    Which 3 people or things in your life are most important to you right now? 

    My family and friends.

    Leanne in her early 40s.
    Leanne in her early 40s.

    What regrets do you have?

    None I suppose because it’s never really about making the right or wrong choices but rather, make your choices right [for you]. 

    They happened for a reason. It made me the person I am now. 

    Leanne aged 47.
    Leanne aged 47.

    What do you think those not yet 40 should be doing while they still can?

    I thought about this question really hard but there’s nothing that I can list. At 40, I believe you still can do anything you set your heart to achieve. But in terms of things you should start young, it’s to have self-love, practice self-care and create memories. Take good care of your skin (especially eye cream), establish your beauty space and routine, work smart but not short-cuts, cherish moments and forgive your mistakes, don’t be too hard on yourself.


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    Lastly, do you think about death? And if so, what do you think of it? 

    ‘The afternoon knows what the morning never suspected.’Robert Frost. I see youth as morning, middle age as afternoon who is a little wiser than morning and when death comes like night fall, we watch the stars twinkle. 

    At the point of this interview, Leanne hoped to be able to take a year off to go visit another country, “travel with my camera and take time to appreciate the beauty that surrounds us”. We cannot say when she will be able to do that with the pandemic going on but you can find out when she does by following her on Instagram or asking her using the comment box below.  

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  • What It’s Like Being Older Than 20

    As a teenager, Cho Jun Ming was considered a youth-at-risk—going in and out of police stations multiple times and breaking enough rules for his teachers and principals to give up on him. Past age 20 however, he changed and is now a man on a mission to affect positive change through film-making. We asked him what changed and were surprised to hear him advocating the importance of getting good grades in school. 

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    “Wealth is definitely very important because to do anything that you want you definitely need money.”

    Q: Hi Jun Ming! Could you tell us a little bit about yourself and how old you are now?

    A: Hi, I’m 24 this year. I’m an independent self-taught film-maker. I usually make films that inculcate social values and make a positive change to society. For example: Anti-drugs, anti-suicide, anti-depression, chasing dreams, cherishing lives and other societal issues. 


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    What are your current daily and weekly routines like?

    I am right now serving my National Service [compulsory for all Singaporean males older than 16.5 years of age] and I do army media work. So Monday-Friday, during normal office hours, I’ll work till 5, and during the weekends I’ll do my own writing—films, story ideas writing—and production schedules. 

    How is your body different from what it was like at age 10?

    Aged 10, I was more hyper-active, more energised. Because I’m actually a person suffering from ADHD, at the age of 10 I was super energetic and had good stamina. But right now it has deteriorated so I’m less active.

    Jun Ming graduating from Kindergarten.
    Jun Ming graduating from Kindergarten.

    What brings you joy these days?  

    I think that to be able to help people overcome their negative thoughts and their setbacks brings me joy because I came from a background where not everything is as simple as it seems and I’ve had to climb very hard in my film-making journey. So I understand those who are struggling with their lives, or who are at their lowest point of their lives. Helping them brings me joy. 

    Which item, bought or received in the past year, has been most useful to you?

    I think it is my dad’s jacket. Because before he passed on, he didn’t pass me anything except for this jacket which he wore during his younger days. So this jacket actually brings me motivation and tells me that I need to keep on working hard, not just for myself but for him as well.  


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    What were you like as a kid and how have you changed since?

    As a kid I was very rebellious. Just like most kids I didn’t cherish my parents well. And as an only son, I got mixed up with a group of friends who were not exactly negative but interesting people with stories of their own. So I grew up in an environment different from my peers in a bad way but that bad way actually taught me a lot of knowledge and gave me experiences. 


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    Can you list 3 things you realised or learned only after age 20 that you didn’t know before? 

    The first would be to plan ahead. I think planning ahead is very important—though most young people only look at the current and don’t look ahead much. 

    Second would be to have faith. Faith in others. As long as you show them you have the ability to work hard and be determined to do your own things, people will eventually help you. 

    The third would be family love. Because I lost my dad, I’m full of regrets now that I want to cherish him but I don’t have any chances left.   

    Which 3 people or things in your life are most important to you right now? 

    The first would be my passion—my passion in film-making. Because I always believe film can create positive change for society and is a universal language that connects the storyteller to the audience. 

    The second would be my father because he’s a very calm person and whenever I did something wrong he wouldn’t try to beat me or scold me, he just taught me about the do’s and don’ts. I didn’t see that when I was young but now that he’s gone I’m starting to reflect back and starting to miss him. 

    The third would be not a thing or person but the opportunity to be able to help those who are in need because I believe there are more people troubled right now. 


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    How important is status at age 20? What about wealth, knowledge acquisition, romance, birthdays and friendships? 

    Wealth is definitely very important because to do anything that you want you definitely need money. And I think knowledge is important because if you have the right knowledge, then your path will be a better one—the way you carve your path in the future will be a better one. And as for romance, to be honest, I agree with the people who say that you should have your career stabilise first before you find your life partner. Just let nature flow. Birthdays… if you’re happy then everyday will be your birthday. Friendships are very, very important. I think you should have a strong bond of friendship, brotherhood, so you should lend a helping hand in the future. 

    What regrets do you have?

    My regret would be not studying hard. I have a passion for films but because of my poor N-Level results I was unable to get into film school—I was rejected 3 times. So I now think academics really play a very important role. 

    Jun Ming now.
    Jun Ming now.

    What do you think those not yet 20 should be doing while they still can?

    I think that they should try to play less and try to reflect on what they are about to do in the future—about how they can contribute to society in a better way. 

    Is there anybody you presently look up to, who you would like to learn from?

    I will just name 1: M. Night Shyamalan, the director of Glass, Split and The Sixth Sense. I would like to learn about his storytelling style and his directing style. 

    Lastly, do you think about death? And if so, what do you think of it? 

    Currently, no. But after my dad’s passing I actually fell into a severe depression and from there, I really thought about death every day. What I think about death is that life is very meaningless if you don’t know what to do with it in the next 10 or 20 or 50 years. So at that moment, when I really didn’t know what I was doing, I thought of ending my life by either jumping down or over-dosing on medication. Which I did. I attempted both but I failed.  

    Jun Ming has, fortunately, finally gotten into film school which he will start in August this year. Once that is over, he hopes to be able to make films that represent Singapore and get those films into international film festivals. You can follow his updates on his Facebook page or exchange words with him using the comment box below. (Fun fact: He’s single and has never been in a relationship before!) Next time we talk with him, we’ll be asking how he got over losing his dad at a young age. Stay tuned. 

    If you would like to share your thoughts on being the age you are, do let us know here. Or read what it’s like to be a different age here

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  • “Me aged 34, looking out at the Ngorongoro Crater in Tanzania where the oldest human fossil, ‘Lucy’, was found.”

    What It’s Like Being Older Than 30

    Hello, I’m Sy, founder and chief of editorials at LUCK-IT. Once a year, I do a self-interview to test out the interview system and refine the process for our interviewees. This is my system test for 2020 and the start of a new series we’ll be running throughout the year called ‘The Wisdom of Old Age’—about what life is like at every decade, told by those who are living it. It is also a (rare) way for you to learn that little bit more about me. Please enjoy.

    “’Adults’ don’t really know what they’re doing with their lives either.”

    Q: Could you tell us a little bit about yourself and how old you are now?

    A: I’m 36 at the moment of this interview. And am presently a digital solopreneur and creator of 2 brands, who wants to be a proper entrepreneur like everybody else one day. 

    What are your current daily and weekly routines like?

    I work from 9-5:30 on weekdays with a 2-hour break for lunch from 1-3pm. At least in theory. In reality, it always varies, often longer, sometimes less. Because I have 2 different brands that I’m trying to grow concurrently (against the advice of a wise man who tried but failed to convince me I won’t succeed doing 2 things at one go), I’m either splitting my day into 2 or splitting my month into 2, depending on where I’m at on each of my projects. 

    I start all work days with fruit and an 8-min run, and end my day with a home-brew toning routine I crafted for myself and a 3.6km walk when possible. Evenings are for socialising and chores. Before bed, I will journal and read either online articles or books or watch something.

    On weekends, I either go out and interact with the world and its offerings or read, watch stuff and game at home. And of course, there are more chores. I wish I didn’t have to do so much chores. 

    How is your body different from what it was like at age 20?

    At age 20, I could drink till 6 in the morning and go out at noon looking and feeling perfectly normal. Now, any minor change in my bed time and wake time and my brain will be in a fog, my body sluggish and my face grey for the rest of the next day. Fine lines are also appearing around my face and I have in the past year started seeing (and removing) white hairs. The only good thing is that I feel stronger these days than when I was 20, likely because I have this regular exercise routine now that I didn’t have before.

    “Me as a kid, shortly before life got complicated.”
    “Me as a kid, shortly before life got complicated.”

    What brings you joy these days?  

    My work. (Yes, I can get a high from working some days, I don’t know why.) My loved ones. Uninterrupted nature and fresh air. Animals. The sea. Games. Movies. Books. More games.

    Which item, bought or received in the past year, has been most useful to you?

    The Bosch Flexxo Serie4 Lithium Power vacuum cleaner—which is basically an all-in-one wireless vacuuming system. I think such vacuum cleaners have been in the market for a while but since I had been using a bulky wired vacuum cleaner which required me to bend and plug in and out every time I entered a new room, the Bosch Flexxo basically revolutionised my life and made it so much easier to clean up.

    The iPad 2019 I got to replace my favourite item of last year—the Boox Note, which unfortunately became unusable shortly after—was also useful, but it didn’t revolutionise my life the way the Bosch Flexxo did. 

    “My Boox Note, a favourite of last year, which ended up having battery problems and swelled beyond recognition soon after. The manufacturer gave me a Boox NotePro as a replacement but I no longer dare use it to type on like I did before. The iPad 2019 has taken its place and has served me very well since.”
    “My Boox Note, a favourite of last year, which ended up having battery problems and swelled beyond recognition soon after. The manufacturer gave me a Boox NotePro as a replacement but I no longer dare use it to type on like I did before. The iPad 2019 has taken its place and has served me very well since.”

    What were you like as a young adult and how have you changed since?

    As a young adult I was reckless and quite obsessed with trying new things all the time, just to know what the experience would be like. With regards to the major matters of life like career and family-building however, I conformed mostly to what everybody around me believed would be best. 

    Past 30, I became way less reckless and now no longer do things just to know. For major matters of life, I no longer emulate the behaviour of the masses and generally custom-make my own way of living in order to attain maximum inner peace and joy. 

    Can you list 3 things you realised or learned only after age 30 that you didn’t know before? 

    1–“Adults” don’t really know what they’re doing with their lives either; everybody’s really just winging it and hoping for the best.
    2–Love is wonderful indeed but also comes with more worry, effort and compromise than you would ever have to experience when not loving.
    3—More is not always better.  

    Which 3 people or things in your life are most important to you right now? 

    Loved ones. A computer with internet connection. And regular periods of silence and stillness because those seem to boost my creativity tremendously and calm my soul.  

    How important is status at age 30? What about wealth, knowledge acquisition, romance, birthdays and friendships? 

    Status is not important to me but it seems to be quite important to some of the people around me and many of the people I’m connected with on Facebook. Wealth-building is important because I can sense my energy and employability waning as the years go by so in this regard it feels like now or never for me. Knowledge acquisition is still important because there’s a lot I want to do that I don’t know how to and thus I have to learn a little more every day. 

    Romance is no longer as important as it was in my 20s because I’ve already picked one and settled down. Birthdays are getting less and less important with every passing year—sometimes I even struggle to remember precisely what age I am. Friendships… I hate to say this but for me friendships have taken a backseat because family, work and knowledge acquisition are now what I focus on and there just simply isn’t enough time to nurture friendships with those going on. I still do hang out with long-term friends every now and then and communicate with them often via text but it’s no longer this regular important activity like it was when I was in my 20s. 

    What regrets do you have?

    I regret not learning programming when I had all that free time when younger. Back in secondary school I had the chance to learn Javascript when it was still new and fresh but I kept away from it because it seemed “too difficult”. I am trying to learn Javascript now but the complexity of the language has grown tremendously since the 2 decades that have passed, and I have to also grapple with not having much free time anymore, so it just makes it even more difficult than if I had just sucked up the challenge years earlier. 

    What do you think those not yet 30 should be doing while they still can?

    Socialise like there’s no tomorrow (it’s much harder to make new friends in your 30s), learn skills with your free time instead of wasting it entirely on leisure activities (it’s also much harder to learn skills when you have more commitments later in life) and do all the weird and bizarre things you have been wondering about because at your age, you will still be excused for doing so. Also, save as much money as you can so that you can use those savings to invest into projects or products that can bring you additional streams of long-term income.     

    Is there anybody you presently look up to, who you would like to learn from?

    Oprah Winfrey and Tim Ferris. If you can’t already tell, the whole of LUCK-IT is me trying to be as wise and helpful as they are.

    Lastly, do you think about death? And if so, what do you think of it? 

    I don’t think of death on a regular basis since I’m generally still very healthy at this point in time. But on the rare instance I hear about the people related to the people around me falling ill or dying (usually those 50 and above), I find myself noticing that death often happens out of the blue, when you least expect it. Thus I think it important to live properly every day, in the way you yourself genuinely find meaningful, because when the time comes, whenever that may be, you won’t be getting any more second chances.

    These are, of course, merely my own thoughts of life, and hardly an accurate representation of what another 30-year-old’s experience might be. Thus, for the rest of the year, I’ll be compiling answers from various people of various age groups just so we can all get a better picture of what life could be like an every age. If you’ve just had a birthday and would like to discuss what you now know now that you’re that little bit older, do tell me about your interest here.  

    Read the rest of the Wisdom Of Old Age series here

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